Another change, another move. One year in RV Land, and yet, another door opens. Life’s unpredictability is ever so predictable.
Where to begin? Unfortunately, Julie Andrews, “let’s start at the very beginning.” escapes me, and my beginnings are elusive at best. For, the last decade of life has been a series of beginnings. Yet, what is the ending, and does it matter?
Let us begin with my friend, someone who defies friendship, indeed. We are not blood sisters nor besties. We grew up starting in high school with married husbands who were best friends since their high school years. Both married in 1985, and she’s remained married while I divorced ten years ago, remarrying in 2017. While too much detail runs unimportant to those other than my friend and me, suffice it to say, after years of separation, different lives, and varied perspectives, it is clear that some connections are for life, even when unexpected forks in the road.
Tip-toeing through the majority of our relationship, from high school days into adulthood, all the while, me intimidated by her ability to hold her friendships with girlfriends on a level I could never reach, as she remained without a boyfriend throughout high school, her counterpart, that would be me, attached at the hip to long-term boyfriends. Of course, this happens on a daily with most high school girlfriends. We are more profound than that. Please stay with me.
The nomad’s life need not be in motion to describe a nomad’s life. After significant changes in my own life post-divorce, 2012, this statement could not be more realistic. Ruts cling to us if we choose the rut-life. As if I planned to sell a beautiful home last year and move into an RV park, only to continue a so-called nomad life. All the while, my fantastic sister from another mother, her steadiness, secure marriage, two independent and intelligent grown children, with sons-in-law only parents could dream of having…what else matters, right?
Oh, ye, of microscopic perspective.
When will we stop comparing lives to others?
How about never?
Please stop. Stop.
We are no longer in high school. At sixty-something, can we simply learn from each other? Is that not enough?
Change it’s happening. I couldn’t be more at peace.
Turns out it sure is enough for my sister from another mother. Such different paths, such a connection that defies explanation.
I’ve pretty much given up on yearning to understand relationships. They are what they are. The healthiest ones are worth every second involved. If one isn’t sure that a connection is beneficial in their sixties, time to let go. My sister from another mother, how we wish we could’ve been where we are today, twenty years ago. My heart breaks for the unattainable “what-ifs,” only to quickly dissolve and absorb into the here and now.
Your nomad life is your OWN. Make no mistake, we are all on our individual paths. Adventure is yours to gain; motion comes in all forms. Find yours, and may your adventures take you far beyond your comfort levels, wherever you are today.
We’ll find each other soon. 💜